Being a working-MOM

I'm a working mom juggling with a 7yr old smart-boy and an 8 months old, adorable-gracious daughter at home along with balancing works at home and at office. Waking up a Boy is as hard as cracking a nut. He wakes up bit by bit and it takes a lots of time for him to start his chores on his own. After all the initial arrangements to my son, he gets ready for school and eagerly expects me to wave-off when gets into the bus to school. Then comes one more hectic task of the day, leaving my daughter and moving to my office, always pinches the guilt in me as a mom.

Working at office, dealing with pressure and the demands of work-place along with trying and performing my duties as a wife, mother and daughter-in-law needs a lot of perseverance and patience. Each and every moment is a testing period both at office and at home, balancing and passing these tests at both places is itself a challenging task.

As the day ends at office, routine starts at home. Making my son to do his homework and preparing him for next day's school, spending some quality time with my daughter, cooking, cleaning the house kills the remaining time as fast as it can. And at the end of the day you will be wondering where the HECK!! did I waste my time today.

Fortunately, I'm really blessed to have a wonderful and a caring husband, in-laws who help me in many ways, without their support I would have broken down, longback.

My mom-in-law takes care of a lots of stuff at home helping me, Raj takes care of bills and is helpful in all the ways and there is lot of encouragement from my parents and my sister. Especially I'm really blessed to have Chandru(Raj's brother) as my good friend - someone I can talk about my feelings, and who helps me manage my emotions.

In reality, I enjoy being a working mom because it teaches me every day, some important lessons of life, sometimes at home and sometimes at office. “Right now I am pretty content with my abilities balancing motherhood along with a professional career".

I remember in my childhood, my parents used to tell me and my sister to study hard and to have good independent life, so we can be supportive to our husbands; as my mom was supportive to my dad. so that we can have a happy and a healthy affordable life.

I encourage all the women to utilize their talents. Every women has some hidden talents within, just we need to recognize and utilize it in right direction. I like all women to be independent and supportive to their respective families. But remember, perseverance and patience are the key to Success here.

Boys are BOYS and girls are GIRLS

Yesterday afternoon Pranav wanted to go out and play with his friend's Chris and Jaylin. After a while he came inside the house with Chris and asked us to play with Nintendo Wii. We told him to ride bicycle rather than games, he was pretty upset and went upstairs to play with his toys. They started playing cars on the stairs, Every minute he keeps reminding me "He's a boy!", I don't know for some reason I feel boy's are pretty rough, When I was a kid, I grew up with my sister, we were quiet and calm though we used to fight and play but we use to have fun together with out crossing our limits. "Don't know, might be I'm over-reacting!"

Anyway, they went out to play with their cars and started riding their bikes, after a while he was gone with his friend to play "Robots" in the ditch. Around 4PM Pranav had gone for more than 2 hrs, as Raj and my in-law were leaving for groceries, they told Pranav to go home and mommy is waiting for him. But, he didn't show up until it was dark outside and until all his friends went to their homes. I was pretty upset at his behavior, initially I thought of punishing him, like not opening the door or spanking him but felt that's not good for him, might be he'll remember only for couple of days and again he might do the same mistake. So, as he came, I opened the door, told him to go to the bathroom to take bath, he took a shower and came to me and asked "Mommy Are you mad at me!". I didn't reply to him for a while and pretended I was busy doing my work, meanwhile Raj and my in-law came from groceries, they had got nuggets and fries for Pranav, I took it and kept it in the kitchen.

It was dinner time, Pragna was bit cranky, so I told them to have dinner and in the mean time I'll put pragna for a nap. Pranav finished his dinner, came and sat beside me. Slowly asked me "Were you scared?", I told him "Yes"! and told him its time to bed. As our daily routine, he asked me "Are you not reading story for me?" sternly I said "No", guess, I was still upset thinking my son didn't inform me before going out to play but didn't know how to tell him that "Today his behavior was bad"!.

Around 10PM , I went to my bedroom and saw him sleeping with his car in my place, tears started rolling from my eyes, went and told Raj I was rude with Pranav today. He said what he always mention's ,"it's the age and that's how boy's behave." He told me not to worry, he'll understand.

I went to my bed as I picked and layed him on his bed, he opened his eyes and said he wants water to drink, Raj got some - and gave it to Pranav, I hugged him and told that's not the way he's suppose to behave. He can have fun without crossing his limits, before going out he needs to inform us where and with whom he's going to play with.

Because we love and care, we are worried about him and told him I was pretty upset with his behavior today and told him to not repeat the same mistake again.

Today morning Pranav was having his breakfast,Raj mentioned him, you need to inform us before going out to play, Pranav asked Raj, Did you do the same thing? Raj calmly said Yes, He did the same mistake when he was a kid of his age but didn't not repeat it again. He used to inform his parents before leaving the house. Immediately Pranav said, "I think I'm just like you Daddy."

Even without thinking, its pretty easy and right to say "boys are different from girls", be at any age. Whether this thought strengthens or weakens with time, "Wait and Watch, is the only answer" because I have a girl kid too, who is yet to cross her first year.

Might be after a while I'll have different experience or thought by raising both, "a boy and a girl" at home.

Believe me; I still do not have answer to "Where should we draw the lines to growing kids, what to be allowed and what not?".

All(Parents) are most welcome to send in your suggestions or comments regarding "the ways to care and handle kids".